Many people have a love/hate relationship with money.
It’s one of the subjects that people get very uncomfortable with and statistically is the subject that causes more arguments between couples than any other.
You’d be surprised how many people do.
When everything’s going well in our lives, it’s easy to love ourselves. We feel good and everything feels possible for us.
But along comes a full moon, a retrograde planet, our monthly cycle, an unkind word and suddenly our whole world seems to go to hell in a handbasket and we start hating life and hating ourselves.
Maybe hate is too strong a word… but we all know what it’s like to feel like crap, and then those old sneaky destructive thoughts start to creep in.
So there you are, saying all the right affirmations and gazing at the images of piles of money on your vision board and yet nothing is happening to bring that money in.
You’re trying to have all the feels for money… trying to imagine yourself on a yacht somewhere lavish in the South of France maybe. But nope… nothings coming in and your bank account is looking bleak.
Are you one of these women who can’t bear to look at your credit card statement or has no idea how much money you really have (or don’t have)?
Rarely if ever, would you get into your car and start driving somewhere without knowing where you want to end up. Yet we do this with our lives.
Clients often tell me that they’re stuck and don’t know what they should be doing with their life. They know that they want to feel happy, fulfilled, abundant and rich, but they don’t know how to make that happen.
Everybody’s happy, fulfilled, abundant and rich (life) looks slightly different, and we will all achieve it in different ways. But in order to get there, it’s necessary to work out where “there” is so that you can actually head in the right direction.
It’s so frustrating to feel stuck isn’t? And so annoying when someone asks you why you’re stuck! Aaagggrrr…. if you knew why you’re stuck, you wouldn’t be stuck right?! Well, Yes and No. There’s some truth to that but it’s not quite so cut and dried.
The truth is that a part of you does actually know why you’re stuck but you either can’t access that part; you know it but don’t know what to do about it; OR you’re afraid to face it (for a host of different reasons).
Ask me how I know? You guessed it. I’ve been there. (Many times actually). PLUS, I’ve seen it time and again with my clients.
We can think that unless we’re on top of our game every single second of every single day that the social media algorithms will kick in and we’ll sink to the bottom of the scrap heap. Never to be seen again.
We have to keep up with everything. Social media presence. Emailing our list. Coming up with new classes, courses, products… new ways to find or attract our perfect clients.
I feel exhausted just thinking about it all, and honestly, I feel that it can get a bit like trying to keep up with the Joneses all the time.
You try to buy yourself some extra time and keep moving the date at which you’ll make this change.
Or you hope things will just get better all on their own, or that the other person in the relationship will make the decision and save you from having to say anything… until suddenly 2, or 5, or even 10 years have passed and you’re still stuck.
You haven’t followed your heart. You’re not living in joy. You’re just treading water waiting for something to happen to make it all better. But usually it’s just getting worse.
We’ve all been programmed to be a certain way.
We think that it’s “just the way we are”, but really, the way we are, the way we behave, think, act and feel is a reaction to past events and past programming.
When you introduce a small child to new people and preface that introduction with something like “she’s very shy, she doesn’t talk much” – you are subtly programming that child to become the way you say she is.
Just last week, I said that your thoughts create your reality – and they do…. but this week I’m going to go a step further and say that in order to manifest the reality that you really want, you actually have to do something about it.
When we focus just outside of ourselves we can tend to forget about the power that is within us – our own magnificence, in a sense – and actually some people don’t even know that this part of them even exists… they don’t teach us this in schools. But actually if they did, we would see a very different world today.
